It's something that we Christian women deal with daily. We don't give it much thought either until we are asking ourselves, "is this modest?".
Modesty is straight forward until...well it isn't.
Growing up I would always wonder where was the "line" for modesty. I would see girls wear dresses that weren't modest on prom but the same girls would never dream of wearing a tank top to school. And don't get me started on why boys could seem to wear whatever they wanted while I felt like us girls always got the "modesty is hottesty" lesson.
So taking a step back I want to have a girl-to-gril talk on modesty. No, I'm not going to spell out the rules here for you. Because honestly, my rules are probably different then your standards of modesty or vis versa. But let's start with a big belief that I don't think we understand about modesty.
The belief: We are modest so men don't lust after us.
I understand that men are more prone to lustful thoughts...
For me, it was when I paid for my own car insurance (which sucked!).
Being an adult/adulting/growing-up...it can all be a little overwhelming. Technically speaking, 18 is when society views us as "adults", but I would argue I'm just now in my late twenties, understanding what it means to be an adult.
I can think of at least 10 moments in my life when I've thought to myself "Wait, I was suppose to do that?" Those moments feel awful. They make you feel stupid and often cost you money or time (or both). Such was the case when I was asked for an old tax return that I didn't know I was suppose to keep. Or when I found out that internships really mattered. Or when I realized too late you shouldn't ignore the buttons that go off in your car.
These are just a few of the hard "adulting" moments that we have in life that can really sting. Thankfully, there is so much knowledge and advice out there on "adulting." That is why I wanted to put together...
Don't we all want a simpler life? Not "Little House on the Prairie" simple, but simple in our purpose, our daily tasks and our values?
I've spent the last two months in the throngs of being a new mom and I've realized something profound: Being a mom is simple. It's ME that gets in the way.
Technically speaking all I have to do is love my child, feed him, change him and protect him. Simple. But is it always that simple, no.
With that in mind, I've taken a look at my own life and thought about why simplifying is so important. Here is my quick list on that: WHY SIMPLIFY?
1. For mental sanity
2. For more peace
3. For more focus
4. For more time
I don't know about you, but all of those things are what I'm aiming for. So in my quest to simplify my life I've found 10 tips that have helped me so far. Some of these tips I've used for YEARS and some of them are new to me but have already helped me tremendously. I talk about all of these tips in my video this week called "Simplify your life in 10 eas...
I have a 3 part challenge for you, and don't worry it will take 5 minutes.
Close your eyes and think about your life and all of the pieces to it. Mentally go over your job, your daily schedule, where you live, your financial situation, and your relationships.
Now, this is part 1 of the challenge. I want you to take that mental list of all the parts of your life and add this circumstance to it: What if those things never changed for you?
What if you were going to have the same job for the rest of your life?
What if your husband never earned more money?
What if you stayed in your current house/apartment?
What if in all the "things" that people climb the ladder for (more money, bigger house, better job, nicer car) you currently were stuck with?
As you ponder those questions, I want to be clear that you wouldn't be stuck in a never-ending "Ground Hogs Day" type situation. You would instead be almost "capped" where you are. If you drive an old car, you would always drive an old car but not nece...
Have you ever thought that when you feel like NOTHING is going right?
YEP. Been there. I sometimes call those days I’m-going-to-cry-my-eyes-out-and-it’s-only-10am-days.
The goal with those type of days is to reduce and recontrol. Let me explain…
I don’t know about you, but I’d like as few bad days as possible. Can I avoid them 100% of the time, no. NOT. EVEN. CLOSE. But I can choose to take control of my life and do all the things to set myself up for great days. What are “all the things”? Glad you asked.
It’s choosing happiness. It’s waking up with a good attitude. It’s having routines that set you up for success. It’s not allowing yourself to adopt OTHER’S emotions. It’s owning your own expectations. Weeding out the negative, toxic, and distracting from your life. All the things that are easier said than done, but so important. So if you are finding that your “bad days” are outweighing your good days, take a look at some methods of reducing those.
When were you incredibly happy? A long time ago, or yesterday?
There isn’t a right or wrong answer but taking a moment to think about when the last time you were incredibly happy can show you a lot about yourself and your lifestyle.
My suggestion for you this week is not to wait to be incredibly happy. Don’t bottle it up and “save” happiness for a really good moment.
Allow yourself to be happy today. Brene Brown coined a term called “Foreboding Joy”. In layman’s terms that is constantly living in a “dress rehearsal for tragedy” or preparing for the worst even when things are good.
Example: Not celebrating a win with your team because you aren’t sure if the next project will work out.
How do you avoid this? Gratitude and practice. I know for me, I’m not great at living in the moment. I’m always 10 steps ahead in my mind and thus I don’t always allow myself to experience the joy and happiness I sho...
On our way to finding and develop lasting relationships we have to inevitably go through the dreaded BREAKUP
Today's video is for all of my babes out there that need a little guidance on what to do after a breakup because I'll be so honest right now...
All of these tips I learned the HARD WAY.
What is it about love that is so complex and hard? I remember being so devastated whenever I was broken up with. I mean, you have to admit that someone telling you "I don't like you anymore" could break anyone's heart.
BUT I am a firm believer that despite breakups being hard because of the rejection factor, they don't have to be harder/more painful than necessary. You always have a choice, and you can choose to take the steps necessary to get your life, heart, and self-esteem back on track.
No, but so so so so so so so worth it!
Here are my top tips for you on getting over a breakup.
So let me save you some time, hurt, and pain by sharing these tips.
Are you waiting to be happy? Your immediate answer might be something like: WHAT?🤔🤔
But just stop and think about it....
How many times have you said something like the following:
"I will be happy when..."
"Things will really be good when..."
"If this (fill in the blank) wasn't going on my life would be good."
I know that in the past, I have been a victim to my own beliefs that happiness was just out of my reach. So this week's video is a little different. No tips, no hacks, only some really honest talk about not delaying your happiness.